Aspiring Doctor Desperately Needs Advice (Sorry this is so long but please read!!!)

[jenny19]

Hi Sorry this is really long but I felt its important to say basically I'm 17, just finishing my first year of the international baccalaureate with HL Subjects of chemistry, biology and english and I want to hopefully go onto university to study medicine. Long story short I haven't got a boyfriend but for a while i was seeing my best friends older brother who is 22 with two daughters, the mother and him are divorced and she's in prison in guyana...but thats another story so he raises them himself. Eventually he decided the relationship wasn't ideal and that we should stop seeing each other I wasn't happy about it but I got over it. Now I've just found out im 5 weeks pregnant and he doesn't want the child because he already has 3 jobs and can barely afford to look after his other two, as well as the fact he says its not ideal because we arent in a relationship. && I really don't want to make the life of his daughters any harder than it already is but i just can't bare the thought of getting an abortion, or giving the baby up for adoption and I really want to keep it. Also my parents are very strict and will most likely kick me out and i know the council may house me but then i dont want people to think i just goi pregnant to get a house and will live off the government forever because i dont want to i want to go to university and I don't know where to go if they dont because i heard they are starting to crack down as too many teens take advantage I dont have a very big family and they'll side with my parents so wont help me either, i'll probably get little to no financial help from the father or them I don't have a job or any savings and I don't want to live off benefits for the rest of my life or just be another 'young mum' because im smart enough to go to university and make something of myself but I've been reading this thread about parents at medical school and i saw the story about the single mother who didnt have any gcses because i have even those and theyw ere quite good 2A* 4A's 7B's 1C so im in a better position than her on that note and i thought just maybe it might be possible to do the access course to medicine when i turn 19 the baby will be 2 because im sure if i study hard enough i will pass im certainly academically capable and then i could go to university and study medicine and i'd finish when they were roughly about 9-10 and then i feel like with all the financial help the government would have given me to get this far it would only be fair if i worked for the nhs to kind of give something back but im wondering if im trying to do the impossible? && any advice on what to do please?

[Fia]

Firstly congratulations. What specifically do you want advice on? It's possible to do anything you set your mind to, the hardest thing is not letting the people who say you can't do it get to you. I got pregnant in less than ideal circumstances during my gap year and I'm in my second year. Yyes you have to be super organised, yes you have to have exceptional self-discipline and yes it's really hard work, especially when your on your own and shattered and a long way away from your family and friends, thats the reality of it but I know that for me it was the right thing to do. I wouldn't be happy if I'd given up just because things didn't go exactly as I planned and I'd hate living thinking what if. Medicine as a single mum isn't for everyone (I have days when I get to uni and cry cos it's been such a battle to get out of the front door) but you have to make the decision thats right for you, not anyone else.
Hope that was a little bit helpful. PM me if you want to chat.
Take care
xx