taking mum to uni with me? lool honest advice please

[Singh.Simran]

Sheesh.

You're totally brainwashed i am afraid.
Right, facts. Pretend they're in grey's or something:

You. Cannot. Have. A. Proper. University. LIFE. With. Your. Mother. There.

This isn't meant maliciously... but she may laugh at everything and be a great person, she is no substitute for people your age, for doing things you wouldn't normally do, for having noone to watch your back and tell you off and iron your pants.

[NV05]

Originally Posted by aspiration

i mean it just doesnt look or sound rit too hehhe imagine an asian girl going out in the mid of the night wearin her "clubbing " gear

Really? I suppose I'm just used to the Manchester nightlife where Asians are clubbing/drinking as much as any other race.

[Arch_Angel]

Although I'd say that drinking is the only way to make dance music bearable I really think that you are strongly sterotyping yourself here.

As for "not being allowed" to do things, this is exactly why you shouldn't be taking your mother to uni with you. Culture / religion / stereotypes to the wind, you are your own person and can do what you like. You are "allowed" to go in clubs, you are "allowed" to go out drinking. If you actually want to is beside the point, but what you shouldn't stand for is your parents dictating what you do. You might very well take their advice on not drinking etc, but they shouldn't be expecting it of you.

Plenty of Asians go in clubs....the notion of them not doing is nonsense, probably told to you by your parents.

You DO have a choice.

Please, please don't take your mother to uni. You will NEVER live it down and it'll ruin it for you.

If necessary put it to them as a chance to be independent, show that you are fiscally responsible, that you can look after yourself and study with no parental guidence and overall, that you are now an adult.

It really sounds like you're trying to make a case for her when you know yourself it's a terrible idea. Stop making excuses and face up to them. Taking a parent to uni is not acceptable. End of....

[Arch_Angel]

Oh and this thread is an exception to my rule Nick, because the consequences of taking a mother to uni are so dire they are unthinkable, I feel it my moral duty to put this person off this foolish idea

[NV05]

Back to my two cents: it will mean your social life will suffer substantially and every person requires a core social network to be psychologically stable and not just one's mother.

IMHO it's a bit selfish for you to have been put in this awkward situation. Your mother won't get the 'uni' experience just from living with someone who is at uni.

[Arch_Angel]

Infact, your mother will destroy any chance of you having the "uni experience" yourself and certainly won't have it for herself.

[NorthernLight]

Let her come with you, if that's what you think you want. Medical School? No problem. Take her round the wards? Why not. You might even graduate. Then she could shadow you while you're a foundation doctor, maybe help out with a few tips if yr having trouble with a diagnosis or two . . .

Although, you do realise, at some point, you will have to make a few decisions for yourself. So long as that's ok?


(Or, in other words, DON'T DO IT!)

[Gizmo says -]

good idea, macca.

dont forget to bring your nana out and all.

[agneishd]

whats with gizzy and nana?
ah well
don't bring your mum to uni

[Jul!eT]

Guys guys, I think aspiration is taking us for a ride... It's just an interesting subject and she might have thought "lets pull their leg and see how they react".

Seriously now. No one would even consider taking their mum to uni. Hell, I wouldn't want to be in the same uni with MY kids, my daughter is already watching me like a hawk and letting me have it every time I dare talk to a male person I'm not married to.

No one would seriously consider this option. That's why I'm sure it's all a joke. A scary one tho...