taking mum to uni with me? lool honest advice please

[Dr Noodle]

You're probably worried about hurting your mum's feelings but she has to let go sometime and going to college is a pretty good time to start...

I couldn't wait to move out when I was eighteen. Independence rocks! (apart from the bills)

If your mum wants to study suggest a course with the Open University. Tis what mine did (nurses didn't do degrees back in her day) and now she's a study addict.

If it's just the experience she wants, well honestly it seems a little selfish to impose on your own. Course she's your ma so you want to be diplomatic (and respectful, if I told my mum to 'get real' I'd get a justified box on the ear from my dad)...but firm.

[bennett]

You're asian aren't you?

lol, I know exactly what you mean Singh, even my mum used to half-heartedly joke with me about it. However last year I knew an English caucasian girl whose lonely single parent mum really wanted to move in with her! She didn't in the end but it shows its not necessarily race specific!

And for my two cents aspiration, i don't think its a good idea for your mum to accompany you to uni stuff for all the reasons stated above. I do think however that it is a somewhat separate issue (esp. if things get too difficult) to you and your mum completely relocating house to somewhere near your uni though.

[agneishd]

ah asian parents, so many stereotypes...
but yes parents of other races can be overprotective too

[aspiration]

thanks guys hahaha

but yes i am asian. so if ur worried about me no having a night life etc etc

its not like it matters

as im not into the nightlife thing anyway..im not allowed to go out as i dont drink or dance so u c.

so i wont be missing out on nightlife il be jooining cluvbs sociaities instead and doign good stuff t ht suits me as well as doign asaian stuf like goin out to shisha bars prolly xx

[aspiration]

i mean it just doesnt look or sound rit too hehhe imagine an asian girl going out in the mid of the night wearin her "clubbing " gear
hehe her dad wd be chasing her with a stick if not run her ove with his car by that point

yeh guys..sry its not like its ma choice..just broght up between two totally different and opposite cultures.thats all.. no matter how much i wana be white or wish it..il always be this bronze colour hehee

[aspiration]

as for the rolling down hill thing..thatss soo funn ehhe as long as dont involve drinking

hey mmy mum is afun person

i know u cant imagine it

but shes really fun to be with

ecen more than some peopel in this forum shes genuinely fun and laughs t thigns liek tht even more than me

she even pushed this clown in the pool when we went tunisia hehehe

[aspiration]

ww i didnt expect this thread to get soo many replies hehehehee

[agneishd]

Originally Posted by aspiration

i mean it just doesnt look or sound rit too hehhe imagine an asian girl going out in the mid of the night wearin her "clubbing " gear
hehe her dad wd be chasing her with a stick if not run her ove with his car by that point

yeh guys..sry its not like its ma choice..just broght up between two totally different and opposite cultures.thats all.. no matter how much i wana be white or wish it..il always be this bronze colour hehee

you don't have to be "white" to go clubbing(!), and asian girls can go out and party - I have seen it and it is not that weird...!

[agneishd]

Originally Posted by aspiration

ww i didnt expect this thread to get soo many replies hehehehee

it is quite different to some of the other threads!

[sali_mali]

Are you worried because your mum wants to come and you don't want her to, or you'd like her to come along and would like to know your options?

I'm afraid I'm with everybody else on this one - bringing your mother to uni = social death. You've got to get your independance sometime, and that is what makes university such a great experience! My mum is brilliant, I love her to bits and we're more like firends than mother/daughter, however there's NO WAY I'd even THINK about taking her to uni with me! She's come to visit plenty of times, and met my friends etc, but that's where I draw the line!